My Biggest Takeaways from The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives

I’ve never been a reality TV girlie, but I started hearing things about The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives and was immediately intrigued.

I don’t know a lot about Mormonism. I used to read a lot of Mormon mommy blogs like Love Taza, The Daybook, and Nat the Fat Rat. And I watch Jordan and McKay sometimes on YouTube.

But that’s it. That’s all I knew. So when I heard that Secret Lives was the #1 show on Hulu I decided to reactivate my account and settle in on the couch for a binge watch.

I’m done now. I finished all 8 episodes. And I have a lot of thoughts. So because I have no one to talk about this with, I’m going to write a blog post with some of my biggest takeaways.

Life is Too Short to be Miserable

I know that life isn’t perfect and we all have ups and downs in our everyday lives. But some of the women featured on this show are miserable a majority of the time and it’s really upsetting.

Something I found interesting was that a lot of the women were divorced and on their second marriages. It’s like Demi says in the last episode… their religion encourages them to get married at a young age before their brains are fully developed. And then later on they realize that maybe they aren’t with the right person.

I hope that Jen figures out what will really make her happy and does that. Because she seems really sweet and doesn’t deserve to be with someone who questions her every action.

Same with Taylor. If Dakota can change and accept her for who she is and what she wants, I hope they can make it work for the sake of their child.

But if not? Bye boy.

Whitney isn’t a villain. She just needs serious help.

I’ve seen a lot of things said about Whitney online. And I think it would be very easy to hate her. She’s very self centered and I actually had to turn off the TV after episode 4 and take a break for a few days. That’s how annoyed I was by her.

But I also think she could benefit from therapy if she’s not already in it. She seems to have a lot of issues with insecurity, jealousy, and not treating people how she would like to be treated.

She also seems to expect everyone around her to put her first, and that’s not how things work. Life is about give and take. Relationships are about all the people involved and not just you.

Idk. All of this is to say that after finishing the show, I feel very bad for her. I think she needs these friendships but she’s not going to get them back without making some big changes first.

I am Baffled by how Rich Everyone Seems to Be

I don’t really understand how tiktok works but it is clear that the women of Momtok are making the big bucks.

I mean, their houses are absolutely beautiful. And their clothes are always super nice looking and trendy.

I’m very curious about how all of this works. In the last episode Jen seemed to have some concerns because as the breadwinner of her family, there was going to be a lot of pressure on her to keep earning after she left Momtok.

That will be interesting because if definitely seems to be more lucrative when the whole group is together.

Unless you’re Taylor. Don’t quote me on this but I think she’s the one with the biggest following.

Don’t Mix Business with Pleasure

Something that also fascinated me is how some of the girls seem close and others don’t. It’s like they’re all work acquaintances through tiktok and yet some of them are besties and others aren’t.

That make sense I guess. But it also felt like maybe they were trying to force relationships for the sake of the show. Taylor has a party in one of the early episodes and Whitney doesn’t show up because she says she doesn’t really consider them to be friends.

Taylor is hurt by that, which I think is understandable. But if that’s true and Whitney doesn’t consider Taylor to be her friend, then the polite thing to do would be to decline the invitation by letting the host know. Is Whitney a bad person for not saying anything and then not showing up? Is Taylor inviting randos to her party? Are the momtok group really not that close and Hulu is just forcing them to spend time together for the sake of the show?

It’s all very confusing. My takeaway is that while some of the girls are friends, the group as a whole is not a friend group. It’s more of a business group with all of these blurred lines that make their relationships super confusing.

In Conclusion

I found this show to be very entertaining. It taught me a lot and has influenced me to add Go to a Mormon Soda Shop and Go to a show at Chippendales to my bucket list.

I think season 2 is inevitable given how good the ratings are, so make sure you watch The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives on Hulu if you haven’t already. You’ll want to be caught up on all the drama before the next season if it happens.